You remember holding hands at the altar, looking into each other’s eyes, and repeating the words “I do” and really meaning it. Just because you both said “till death do us part” doesn’t mean that it was going to be easy to keep it that way.
If you are reading this because you are unsure of your own feelings or that of your partner’s, then you should know the symptoms of a relationship heading for the rocks.
Read through these common signs of a failing relationship, and remember, just because you recognize some of them, doesn’t mean that your marriage is necessarily over! There’s always time to try and fix things, once you know what you are looking for.
You spend the majority of your lives with your spouse, and it’s meant to bring you closer together as the years go by. But are you finding that you and your partner are drifting apart?
This can take many forms, from physically spending time away from one another without noticing it, or simply developing incompatible perspectives on life.
If you are finding it harder and harder to maintain a conversation and small talk, then you may be unconsciously building a wall of silence between yourselves.
Have you noticed that everything becomes an argument with your partner nowadays? You can’t even go out to dinner without fighting about where to go, what to watch on TV, or even who started the bickering.
This is a classic sign of unresolved frustration in a relationship. It usually means that something has happened that the other person felt wasn’t fair, but can’t let go of.
It could also be that your partner is trying to gain more control, and tearing down everything that you do is their way of showing how superior they are compared to you.
Couples in healthy partnerships tend to share the highlights of their lives with their spouses first, since it’s really important for them, it should also be important for the other.
But if they start to share the good news with someone else before you, or worse, “forget” to tell you at all, then this could be a serious sign that they don’t want to share their life with you at all.
Now, your partner going out and getting their hair cut or buying a new shirt isn’t what we’re talking about here.
This is more hand-in-hand with the above point, where your spouse starts changing their appearance and “style” without talking to you about it or including you in the decision-making process.
It could mean that they are trying to become a new person, one that has no connection to their current relationship.
Check out the more serious warning signs on the next page!