When you’re trying to have a baby, everyone thinks it’s fun. And in theory, it is. But for some couples, trying to have a baby means heartbreak after heartbreak. It’s not always easy for people to conceive. And if they do, it doesn’t always mean that it ends with a baby.
It doesn’t matter who you are, infertility and miscarriages can happen to anyone. TV star Hilarie Burton shared an emotional message after the birth of her daughter, trying to make people understand just how hard it can be.
There’s something I really want to say to all the women out there who are trying…..It took a long time for Jeffrey and I to have this baby. The first time I got pregnant, it took a year and a half. I surprised him on Christmas with baby Seahawk booties. We cried. We celebrated. We picked out names. And we lost that baby.
More losses followed, and as so many couples know, it was heartbreaking. It still is heartbreaking. And every morning of the five years it took us, I’d open my computer at the kitchen table and see the news and I’d grow bitter over the endless parade of celebrities showing off their bumps and babies. I’d weep out of jealousy for how easy it was for them. Didn’t they know something could go wrong? Didn’t they know that there were other women out there struggling? It pained me to see the corporate sponsored baby showers and magazine covers capitalizing on this human miracle that wasn’t happening for us.
So when this pregnancy started, we were cautious. I didn’t want to celebrate for fear of jinxing it. I didn’t want a baby shower. I checked her heartbeat every day, up until the day she was born. And now that she is here, I just stare at her in wonder all day. I see her in her daddy’s arms and I don’t take any of it for granted. She screams bloody murder and I smile because she is so wildly alive. So now that folks know she’s here, I don’t want her birth to cause any other woman to weep at her kitchen table.
If anything, my wish is that she would restore hope for others. Fertility is a fickle thing. And for the other couples out there who have had dark days, we want to introduce our miracle baby to you and send you our love and support in finding yours.
The message was meant as a way to inspire those struggling to conceive. There is light at the end of the tunnel. And no one knows that more than Allyson Ponto and her husband, Tony.